Column from My Website: The Modern Male Lifestyle
Get your balls back - by JD Dallas

Hello again everyone – thanks a million for reading. I got something to share, and it’s bugging the crap out of me today. If you or someone you know is a complete wussbag around women, read on.

news flash.

Women hate wussies and girly-men. I’m here to tell you – because it’s painfully apparent no one else is telling you, or that few will these days.

Once more – women hate wussies and girly-men.

I truly feel the need to state this emphatically. It’s something I think is of paramount importance and is already a crisis in our society. And it’s getting worse. No wonder women are frustrated – and no wonder so many men are frustrated too.
Most men have no idea what women want.

What I’m talking about is the way we have somehow gotten to a point in our society where men have been figuratively castrated and are now chided for being what they are – men.

Don’t believe me?

Hell, I didn’t believe it myself for a long time. In fact, I was under the impression that women wanted a “nice guy” and just wanted me to “be myself”.

Where in the world would I get such ideas? You might think the answer is: From Women.

And you’d be partially right. Let me explain.

 Lots of women will say stuff like this: “Oh, I want a nice guy. Someone who understands me.” That’s what they SAY. What does that MEAN? On the surface, it sounds like she wants some milk-toast, ass-kisser to be her friend, and understands HIS feminine side.

The truth of the matter is, yes, she wants someone who understands her. But not in THAT way. She wants a man who understands HER feminine side - what a women really wants. And what is that? Read on.

You see – this idea that women want these “nice guys” is being perpetuated by lots of sources and entities, and men get hit with it from every angle. Hollywood movies that used to show James Bond back-handing an upstart woman now show the sweet, geeky guy getting the girl at the end of the movie.

I’m 100 percent NOT saying you should ever backhand a woman for any reason (and if you have trouble with that, get help – now) – I’m just making a point. That is, that chick flicks not only tell men - they tell women - that women want some sweet, sensitive nice guy and not a real man or the “bad boy”.

It confuses both them and us.

Then it frustrates both them and us, when the men act all nice and ass-kissing, and women don’t feel any attraction for them. The men are going, “Wtf? I’m being nice to her…??” and the women are going, “Wtf? I mean, he’s nice and all…I just don’t feel it for him…???”

Remember this: Women can’t help it if the DON’T feel attracted to you – and they can’t help it if THEY DO. They just know – whether it makes sense for them to like a guy or not. And you can't "convince" her to like you. 

But guess what – men CAN help it if they act like and become the type of guy women are attracted to. But like I said – most men don’t know what that is. It’s not just politically correct TV and Hollywood, either.

You may have gotten some advice along the way from dear old mom, too. Lemme tell ya – mom gave out advice based on how it reflects on HER. When she said, “just be nice…women want a gentleman” – she probably truly believed it. But it was based on the fact that she wanted to show the world the perfect young man she reared and raised. You were her baby – she wants to see you as such.

And let’s face it – right out of the box, we were led to believe that mom was this all-knowing, omnipotent creature that KNEW what were thinking, what we wanted, and when to give it to us. Well, maybe she was – when you were 7 years old.

In short, men are led down the wrong path constantly, and from a very early age. Most men have no idea what a woman wants and don’t understand why she doesn’t like them after dates, gifts, and all other kinds of supplication.

It has gotten to the point that we are raising new generations of girly-men with no skills with women at all.

Most Men get so frustrated that there are online dating services making a mint off their confusion. Men pay the services to find women for them because they’ve never developed the social skills and attitude necessary to atrract women on their own. Don’t get me wrong – the internet is a great place to meet women, but it shouldn’t be a crutch. It shouldn’t be a substitute for the real world, and real world skills. I mean, seriously – the goal to meeting a woman online is to meet her in person, right?

Using these pay services just hooks desperate men up with the desperate women. Women get hit on ALL THE TIME – if they are on a pay service to find men, then it makes them see a bit desperate, doesn’t it?

For some guys, this may be all they want or need. I’m not one of them. Really - Do men want the desperate women? Or do men want the women THEY choose and the women THEY want to have?

Gentlemen – I’m serious here. Men as a gender have to take their nuts back. Now. Women are NOT attracted to weak-minded men. They are not attracted to weakness at all. Period.

You gotta believe me when I tell you- I know the pain. But I’ve also learned from my – and other men’s – many mistakes. And I live the lfie I’m talking about. One where MEN call the shots. Men make the decisions. Men are in charge of their own lives and fit women into their lives based on the man’s schedule, convenience and preference.

The good news is, you don’t have to be a complete A-hole and a jerk, but you don’t have to be a supplicating wussbag and checkbook to a woman, either.

That’s Alpha Modern Male – that’s the lifestyle I talk about.

I’ve written much more on this subject in my eBook, Dating Attitude.  I wrote it to help men start living the life they wanna live, and getting the kind of women they WANT in their lives. Not the kind they happen to have or get “lucky” with.

Much more on this subject at www.Modernmalelifestyle.com

If you haven’t checked it out yet, you should. It’s packed full of Columns by my experts on all areas of your lifestyle, from health, to fashion and of course dating.

There’s lots of stuff you can read and do for free. You can join my reader’s forum THE LAB and share gambits, stories and ideas about getting good with women. There’s my advanced forum where myself and my resident dating artists participate weekly.

You can grab a copy of my Ebook Dating Attitude and download it immediately. It’s more than just a “how to get chicks” manual - It’s jam-packed with exclusive content on attitude, being a man, style, approaching technique, and my special detailed report on how to meet and date women on MySpace.

That’s right – MySpace. A FREE social network where YOU find the women you want, not paying some service to find you a “compatible match” –

And that’s the crux of the situation right there – Men and Women are SUPPOSED to be different – THAT is what attracts us to one another. When we pay somebody to find a woman that has tons of things in common with us, we’re setting ourselves up for failure. Vive la difference, says I.

Until next time-

Best ~ JD

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