Have you ever heard the advice:

If you want to be a millionaire, find millionaires, hang out with them, and do what they do. ?

It’s sage advice, to be sure. The same goes for picking up women – watching and learning from guys who KNOW is a great tool for getting the information you need.

Guys like myself and the incomparable Gary Brodsky have the experience and knowledge – so you’d do well to listen up.

But on the other side of the coin, a lot can be gained by watching the throngs of failed pick up attempts by the myriad of Don Juannabes out there. It’s a great example of what NOT to do.

One of my favorite research activities is to go out with a couple of my buddies to some local “pick up clubs” and just sit back and observe.

I see men all the time make tons of mistakes when approaching women.

You wanna know what the number one mistake these guys make is?

I thought you might.

Here it is.

I’ve seen guy after guy fail with a woman he just met by trying too hard to impress her.

That’s right – he is trying to impress the woman he is approaching.

What’s wrong with that?

I’m glad you asked.

The short version is: Everything.

Your mindset HAS to be that the woman should be trying to impress you, not the other way around. And when you think this way, it will show in everything you do and everything you say.

Here’s the long version.

Any reasonably attractive woman has been approached a million times by the time you find her standing across the room. She knows you are interested, otherwise you wouldn’t be getting in her face.

She is either going to be unavailable, or she will play along for a period of time to see where you are going with this. And this is the critical stage.

If you’ve already decided that you want this chick before you speak to her, you’re going to be going in with the mindset of impressing her. And man, is she bored with that. Every guy who approaches her does this.

At this point, you are doomed – because everything you do and say will be colored subtly by your “hope” that she will like you.

In this situation, You are the seller. She is the buyer. Which means she holds all the cards.

And I see it all the time.

Guys approach and crash and burn because they just don’t know how to talk to a woman. They have the mindset that they are “getting lucky” when they can get a woman’s interest. And luck has nothing to do it.

Successfully approaching and engaging a woman has everything to with your attitude. If you are the buyer – then you are in control.

So very few men get this, that the available women out number real men. With that being the case, real men are in demand, so by definition you have your choice. You can be picky. And you should.

And even if this chick is so hot that you just have to have her, you still have to let her know you are evaluating her. I guarantee you few if any men have ever approached her this way. You are going to stand out like a mofo.

I know there’s a shit-ton of “How to pick up women” methods, systems, lines, gambits and tricks and scams out there. They all cost you your hard-earned cash, and they leave out the most important ingredient. The attitude.

All the tricks designed to impress women don’t amount to shit compared to having the proper mindset and the attitude that it takes to be successful.

I’m here to tell you now, gentlemen, that every method I’ve studied (and I’ve studied them all…you know the ones I’m talking about ) are a bucket of fluff. They aren’t male-oriented. They are all female-oriented, and in the end you end up looking like woman for trying to think like and impress a woman with false demonstrations of value.

Besides myself and the Modern Male Lifestyle (www.modernmalelifestyle.com) I’ve only found one other master out there who truly understands what it takes to be successful with women – to have, as he puts it, “women on tap”.

I’m speaking of my good friend Gary Brodsky.

Gary has over 30 years of success and experience in the world of women and dating, and has raised dominating women to a high art.

Gary has fully endorsed my material and my teachings, and we are currently working together to bring you tons more on the subject of women and dating.

And I, of course, can’t recommend highly enough what Gary has to offer.

In the confusing forest of hundreds of “How To” methods, only Gary Brodsky and J.D. Dallas teach you how to be a Man that women are instinctively attracted to. No tricks, no games, no bullshit.

If you haven’t been to my website in the last couple of days, get over there now and take advantage of my very limited time offer:

My book, The Dating Attitude is selling like hotcakes for the ridiculously low price of under 20 bucks. And I’m not going to be doing it much longer. It’s going to sell like crazy for the Amazon.com price of $39.00 – and It’ll be going back to that price in mid-August.

In addition to being able to immediately download my book, there’s several links on my site to get you over to Gary’s website and get you introduced to the metric-ton of material he has available. It’s all bullet-proof, and you won’t find it anywhere else. I personally endorse all of his methods.

I’m pleased to announce that Gary and I are not only on the same page, but that we will be collaborating in the near future to bring you still more on how to meet, dominate, bed, romance, and date all the women you can handle. It’s simply not going to be fair. We’ll probably start our own planet.

That’s all for now, gents.

Get over to www.modernmalelifestyle.com to get started – and take control of the approach situation. Remember – you are the buyer, not the seller. She has to impress you. Gary and I spell it out in all of our material.

Til next time

Live the Lifestyle.

J.D.

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