Not everyone is the desperate and dateless category, so I’m going to share some killer techniques for establishing a deep, quick connection with a woman you may just met, may be dating or are in any stage of a relationship with.

Btw – if you are currently single and looking or just need to get your dating life handled to the point where you are able to meet as many woman as possible, you should get a hold of the Modern Male Lifestyle audio Program: The Ultimate Guide to Confidence and Approaching. More on that in a bit.

Women are emotional creatures – can we all agree on that? They are starved for and looking for a CONNECTION with a man. Something they can’t explain, but just FEEL.

In addition – you may have heard about that magical “third date” where things start to progress physically with her. And sometimes that’s the case, and sometimes it isn’t. In general, women do move slower and more selectively than men – and any guy with any degree of confidence and game should have her ready by date three.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. It can happen much faster.

Because it doesn’t necessarily matter how many dates you have or how long you’ve known here – what matters is what you do with the time you spend with her.

One of the greatest techniques I know for establishing a connection with a woman is take her on three dates – all at once.

And no, this won’t cost you a week’s salary. In fact, it’s best if you don’t spend much money on her at all. She doesn’t want to feel an obligation, and she won’t be impressed with your checkbook and credit cards (there are women who will “use” you for money and dates, too, so again, it’s best not to lead with your wallet).

What I like to do is set up a “date” with a woman that goes something like this.

First, I’ll tell her this cool place (coffee shop, gallery, clothing store…whatever) close to my house. “Here’s my address – swing by, knock on the door and we’ll go together, it’ll be fun.”

When she comes to your place – answer the door, and say, “Hey, I’ll just be a second, c’mon in for a minute.”

Then run off to do “something” and let her soak in your place. This is important to let her get comfortable there – and to be able to envision your place when you talk about having her over in the future. It only takes two minutes, and it’s worth it.

You see – if this were a typical 3 date cycle – one of those dates might be that first time she’s over at your house – and this tactic gets that situation handled and out of the way. It’s a rare women who will come over and stay the night the first time she sets foot in your door.

Then, it’s important to have several back-to-back activities set up. For example – if it’s in walking distance, walk to the coffee shop. Or drive if necessary. From there, go to a local park. From there, hit an ice cream place or a hot dog vendor, then cruise to a cool clothing store. Have her try on outfits for you. Don’t but her anything.

Why is this important and why does it work?

The short version is, when she thinks back on her time with you, she’ll have multiple memories of you and her together. This will give her the feeling that she’s known you much longer than she has, and it fast-forwards your connection.

Think of anybody you’ve know for a long period of time. You have multiple memories of them, and each one of them establishes how much you’ve “been through” and how long you’ve known eachother.

Another great tactic is to take a few pictures along the way with a camera phone. Pictures of places you go, and of you two together. Then, of course, forward these along to her via email or text messaging, and just say, “Wow…great time.”

Again, this cements in her mind how comfortable she is with you, and it fast-forwards the typical date cycle.

Whatever you do – do not do a “dinner and a movie” date. That’s what married couples do. Any memories of THAT date are of the movie, and the emotions the movie conveyed – not of you. It’s a memory of a table at dinner between you, and some uncomfortable conversation. And it’s the memory of one date. And you still have a long way to go. Not to mention that fact that if you haven’t read my book The Dating Attitude and the section on how to not pay for dates – you’ll probably end up spending a $100 bucks all to no avail.

So remember these techniques and use them – and establish that connection women are looking for to surrender to you.

The Ultimate Guide to Confidence and Approaching is a very advanced audio set that includes an  effective confidence exercise at the end of Disc Two. It’s an easy to follow program that can be listened to and followed again and again – put the audio exercise on a cd or your ipod and take it with you and do it over and over again.

This program covers all areas of your confidence, and works on the level of setting a new mindset, and getting your subconscious mind working for you instead of against you. There’s plenty of technique on approaching, and my personal tips on several approaching situations most men find themselves in regularly.

At the end of the day, you know by know it’s not what you say, but how you say it – and that comes from your confidence and mindset. Pick up lines are temporary, but a new mindset is forever.

Everything on this audio set is stuff I’ve been doing and teaching for years, and I’ve even added some of my good friend Gary Brodsky’s personal techniques to make it ultra-effective.

There are audio samples of all the Modern Male Lifestyle programs up on our website.
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“Get the Attitude – Get the Women” – my best attitude-building program ever

“The Ultimate Guide to Confidence and Approaching” – get these two areas of your life handled – fast.

"The Perfect Date" Audio Series - Volume One: How to Effectively meet and date, Volume Two: All the bedroom moves you'll need once you got her.


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